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Drop the ‘mom guilt’ for good

“It’s called mom guilt…Now you get your you-know-what back on that couch or in bed right now before you make me come over there!

I had a similar conversation with one of my best friends this morning. She’s a wife and mother of two and also works as one of the most vital positions in a big hospital; she’s a nurse anesthetist.

Basically, she keeps people alive during surgery.

She also recently moved her ill mother in with her family and has been taking care of her.

We’ve talked over the last 48 hours, and she’s had every symptom of the coronavirus. She sounds terrible, fever, cough, fluid in chest, migraine, and she’s winded to even move; mind you, my friend is normally very healthy, works out regularly and is in shape.

However, she just got her test results back as negative.

Immediately she felt like she needed to get up, get right back “in the game” to tend to her family and the household duties.

She said shortly after trying she felt faint and had to lay back down. She shared this message to me with defeat covered in guilt.


Why do we do that? Why do us moms feel like we need to get right back in the rat race and not give ourselves time to recover and heal?

I’ve done it! I’ve done it hundreds of times before. It’s almost a natural, burdened reaction that 9 out of 10 of us automatically get!

She felt that because she didn’t test positive, that she “should” immediately be up over-exerting herself.


I pray you all have a sidekick in your life to remind to you go lay the hell back down and take care of YOU.

If you’re not at 100%, everyone else is going to continue to lack without you being at your best.

Moms, we are incredible; quite frankly, super human at most times. But there are times we have to lay down our swords, take off our capes, and simply “be” and recover.

My incredible human of a friend needed this reminder this morning and I’m quite certain, many of you do, too.

And absolutely, unequivocally, drop that mom guilt and never pick it back up, ever again.

Regan Long

Regan Long is a mother of 5, author, entrepreneur, philanthropist, and paid family leave advocate. Regan founded The Real Deal of Parenting, an online platform that provides heartwarming and witty content to millions of readers worldwide, a large percentage of those being mothers.

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